When a couple wants a child, but attempts are unsuccessful, it can be a heartbreaking and unsteady time.
There are medical remedies for infertility, but normally not right away, not for the youngest couples. Doctors advise waiting.
However, increasing numbers of young women, in our "want it all" culture, don't want to wait!
Ticking Biological Clock
For women of childbearing age, the message is hard to miss: your biological clock is ticking. Aimed at women in their 30's and 40's, when getting pregnant gets harder, now, its many 20-somethings who seem to be hitting the panic button.
“I was rather anxious and wanted to get pregnant, you know, right away,” says 25-year-old Christy Zornes.
She tried for just four months before seeing a fertility specialist, well short of the year doctors usually recommend.
The latest government numbers reveal nearly one-in-four college-educated women in Zornes' age group received fertility treatments.
It's a rate that doubled in seven years, even though doctors say infertility rates among these women remain low.
However, the cost is high. Treatment like in-vitro fertilization can run tens of thousands of dollars.
It may have more to do with attitude: women unwilling to wait for what they want after watching others wait too long.
Dr. Karl Hansen is seeing an increase in patients under thirty, and says sometimes their only problem is impatience.
With younger women occasionally I’ll have them go try on their own for a longer period of time because they just don't need any treatment yet.
But they often want it, empowered by information on the internet and growth of the nation's three-billion dollar fertility industry.
Dr. Karl Hansen says, “I think it's entirely appropriate for younger women in whom we suspect there's a problem that they that they seek care earlier.”
In Zornes’s case, there was a problem, she wasn't ovulating.
While still not pregnant, she's glad she sought help early.
“A year from today I would hope to be pregnant, if not already have a baby,” says Christy Zornes, which is a dream shared by many young women, becoming more aggressive in asking their doctors for help.
Health officials say nearly nine-million women have used infertility services.